Dr. Romance writes: On average, we pay more attention to what we are saying or thinking about than what the other person is hearing, or how our words are “landing” on the other person. This self-involvement gets worse during an argument. You can become a much more effective communicator by using what I call the attentive […]

Dear Dr. Romance: I read your post on line about How Not to Repeat Past Relationship Mistakes, and it answered a lot of questions that I have about my ex husband. We were married for 10 years. He’s violent, abusive and obsessed with me. I have dealt with him for the almost 3 years of extreme